1. The first step is to become aware of your own levels of arousal . Experiment, take your time and give yourself a very real self-loving exploration, not just a quick masturbatory release. Notice how your penis moves through distinct changes before orgasm and ejaculation, he’s not just soft and then hard and spewing. There are four defined stages of erection: lengthening and filling; swelling; full erection; rigid erection. The fourth stage, rigid erection, characterized by a penis that’s very stiff (a boner) and very hot, signifies ejaculation is close at hand. Through attentive self-arousal and the playful hands of your sweetheart you can learn how to stay for longer periods of time in the exciting, but less explosive, third stage of firm erection. When you feel yourself moving into the hard, hot level stop stimulation, relax and pay attention to your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Tell your partner when you are about to have an orgasm. At this point the partner can slowdown or stop to prevent a premature ejaculation.
2. The Power of Breath: Conscious breathing is a key for extended lovemaking. Rapid breathing excites and arouses you. Slow, controlled breathing, way down into your belly, calms you and helps delay ejaculation. Focusing on your breath takes your attention away from your genitals. Synchronizing your breathing rhythm with your partner’s strengthens your connection with each other.
3. Perineum Pressure: Pressing on the perineum, a spot midway between your
scrotum and your anus, will help to stop ejaculation because this spot reaches through to the prostate gland. It is the prostate that contracts and expands during orgasm and then expels the ejaculation fluid. Ask your partner to apply this loving pressure for you.
4. Testes Tug: When a man nears orgasm his scrotum rises up closer to his body. You can delay ejaculation by gently pulling your
testes down and away from your body. Your partner can also do this for you.
5. Penis Tip Squeeze : Squeezing your penis just below the head or glans can help to stop oncoming ejaculation. It necessitates withdrawing completely from your partner during intercourse, but is an excellent way to begin practice on your own with masturbation.
6. PC (pubococcygeous) Muscle Contraction : This is simply squeezing your pelvic floor muscles, around the scrotum, penis and anus as you feel ejaculation approaching. An easy way to practice this is to interrupt your urine stream when you are going to the bathroom.
7 .Ejaculation-free orgasm: One important thing to understand is that the problem really is ejaculation, not orgasm. When you feel you are just about to ejaculate, stop moving (your partner must stop, too) and contract the PC muscle very firmly during 10 to 20 seconds. You can then resume love-making. For this to work, your PC muscle must be strong enough. To train it: contract it 20 times 2s, 3 times a day. You should see progress in ejaculation control within a few weeks.
8 Passion Pump: This technique, which combines squeezing the PC muscles, rolling your eyes upward, touching your tongue to the roof of your mouth, and visualizing your sexual energy flowing up through your body while you practice controlled deep breathing is one of the most effective ways of delaying ejaculation. It’s a Taoist sexual kung fu technique that has the added benefit of helping you circulate your sexual energy through your body rather than having it remain hot and heavy in your genital region.
9. Thrusting Technique: A superb thrusting technique that brings great pleasure to a woman and helps a man to last is a combination of deep and shallow thrusts. By shallow thrusts we mean your penis only enters 1½ to 2 inches inside your partner. These first couple of inches are the most sensitive part of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusts mean your penis enters as fully as you can. In this technique you combine a series of nine fairly quick shallow thrusts with one slow deep one. The shallow thrusts stimulate your partner’s most sensitive vaginal tissues and at the same time create a vacuum effect that makes her ache for the deep thrust to come. And because most of your thrusts are shallow ones, exciting only the first few inches of your penis, you’re able to rock on for much longer!
10. Foreplay: Use foreplay to your advantage, stimulating your partner first . If you want to have quite a bit of intercourse before ejaculation, it’s best not to allow yourself(male) to be the one getting the attention!
11. Let him put the condom on himself . This improves the chance of him not getting too turned on beforehand.
12. Tackle relationship issues: Be sure that your head and heart are in the mood for sex as well as your body. If you’re unhappy about something with your partner then sort it out first.
13. Exercise your pelvic floor: Many men say they are able to delay ejaculation by squeezing or pushing their pelvic floor
14. Stop and start: This is the most common technique used in psychosexual therapy. Practice stimulating yourself to the point just before ejaculation, then stop. Start again when the sensations have subsided. Repeat this three times. You should find the length of time before each stop gets gradually longer.
15. Change strokes: If you feel you’ve gained more control with the stop-and-start technique, try changing your stroke to something less stimulating rather than stopping all together.
16. Change positions: During intercourse, try the stop-and- start technique when the sensations become strong. When you’re more confident, try changing positions rather than stopping. Some men last much longer when their partner is on top.
17. Remember that doing doggy style and missionary both increase pressure on the male so stay clear of these positions .
18. Think about a Boring Sports: Does the trick every time. In a really dire situation, think of your
grandma’s arm fat.